What inspired you to start blogging? Do you foresee yourself blogging in the future?

Tell us about yourself! What are you passionate in? Can you describe yourself in 4 words?

Do you ever look at a dog and think: "I'd die for you"?

Who are some of your favorite authors? (I find this easier than asking what your favorite book is. I didn't want to put you through that awful decision.)

If you had the chance to write a book but it has to be the only book you will ever write, what type of message would you want it to portray?

Are you a library sort of person or a I-will-only-buy-my-books-like-Kenzie-does?

If you could collab with ANYONE (dead or alive), who would it be?

Do you consider yourself a fangirl? What do you fangirl over?

What is your aesthetic? (Mine is pizza, books, the color yellow, glitter/sunshine!)

If you had a day free to do anything you wanted, what would you do?

If you could rewrite the ending of a book, which one would it be and why? (Perhaps you could give us a non-spoilery answer to this question. We ain't about that spoiler life.)

What is something that makes you super excited and giddy?

Are you an introvert or extrovert? Do you know what your MBTI type is?

...do you like pizza?

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Thank you so much for joining us today, Bekah! I hope you felt welcomed and enjoyed your stay. ;) I can't wait to do more collaborations with you in the near future! <3 Now friends, what question did you find most interesting? Which answer was your favorite? Let us know!

xx Kenzie

How We Look At The World

Meeting An INFJ

Kenzie: When you first approach an INFJ, the first thing you will realize is that we are very quiet. I honestly feel so downgraded when people call me “shy” because I’m really not! I’m constantly thinking which means sometimes I might forget to speak... INFJs notice things others may not. We take notes and listen. We are the listeners. And sometimes we might feel more comfortable around certain people over others. We are definitely more talkative and open to people we are close to over people we just met. It takes time to get under our shell but once you do, it is so worth it. ;)

Our Feelings

Vanessa: WHERE DO I EVEN START? Feelings are a hard thing for me to deal with and explain. Complex intense feelings is the best way I can explain them. When I feel something I feel it intensely. Happy is much more than happy it’s joyful, content, radiant, full of life, adventurous, and other things all in one. The same thing applies to darker feelings, making those times a real ride.

Kenzie: VANESSA KNOWS WHAT’S UP. INFJs are very intuitive and sometimes we may feel something so intensely and not know why, exactly. Trying to understand my feelings is like putting a very, very complicated puzzle together. We love being understood, so when someone can actually “get” what we are feeling, it’s the best comfort feeling ever.

Why Our Brains Are Always Talking

Vanessa: Because our mouths can barely do it so our minds must take the stage instead?

Kenzie: BWHAHAHA. Vanessa pretty much just summed us up. If we’re very silent, it’s most likely that our brains are having an intense party filled with every little thought you could possibly think of in such a short span of time. We think A LOT. We’re in our heads probably 100.5% of the time, either daydreaming about the future or thinking of all the different ways we could have done THE THING. The downside of being in our heads all the time is that we end up in a spiral of thoughts, leading to none other than the imperial doom of #overthinking.

Vanessa: YES! Couldn’t have summed that up better!

How We Deal With Decisions That Result In Change

Vanessa: Let me talk about decisions INFJs make that involve others. We are very sensitive towards others which means when it comes to making a decision we tend to think about EVERYONE'S feelings. We truly want everyone to be happy so making those choices can be a back and forth battle between what will make others happy and what you think is right in the situation. We care too much for our own good and sometimes don’t realize we can’t make everyone happy.

Kenzie: I really like your take on this question, Vanessa. Initially, I was going to answer this by going on about how I fear change so my decisions are usually based on that fear lingering in the back of my mind... But I love how you said that our decisions are usually based on what will make others happy and that is so true. We typically look at how the decision will benefit the overall group of people rather than just ourselves. We care so deeply for others and I think it’s because we carry so much empathy with us. Many INFJs reflect the emotions of others- especially me. If someone is sad, I start to reflect those feelings due to my ability to feel for them. Thus, I feel like unintentionally strive to make others happy so we can be happy. (Notice how I totally went off topic from that question?)

Things We Wish We Were Better At

Vanessa: Dealing with emotions, talking to people, stepping outside of my house with confidence (kind of kidding… not really.) For real, a goal of mine has been trying to do things without thinking too much about them. Maybe that’s an anxious mind thing but I struggle with doing things without overthinking them.

Kenzie: This may not be because I’m an INFJ but I wish I was better at accepting the things I cannot control. I beat myself up when I think, “Maybe I could have done THIS to prevent THAT from happening.”

Another thing I wish I was better at would be maintaining my emotions and not letting others control the way I feel. If someone looks at me the wrong way, I end up thinking about it for the rest of the day. It’s just how I am.  

How We Perceive Relationships & Love

Vanessa: I’m looking for “The One.” and if you aren’t it I’m moving on!! It’s as simple as that. As soon as I see a red flag or something that doesn’t match up to what I am looking for I might as well break loose and move on. To me there’s no point in sticking around if I don’t like how things are turning out. Honestly, I just want a fairy tale romance which is why I think I am going to stick to loving the characters in books. Kenzie are you with me?

Kenzie: I am totally with you, Vanessa. I’m a hopeless romantic so if my love story isn’t an actual love story then... *shrugging girl emoji* But while we are on the topic of love and relationships, I have to add that I’m the type of person who believes in being friends first. I feel like I have to know the person before pursuing them in any way. Another thing I look for in someone is how they perceive the world. I want someone who looks at the world the way I do. I need our souls to feel connected. Having someone who understands me (because, let’s face it, I’m extremely complicated) would be an a+ for me.

How We Take Care Of Ourselves

Vanessa: Life is a lot for anyone! There’s so much to handle and every little move takes thought and effort. Taking care of myself is about doing what makes me happy. That’s taking days before I get overwhelmed, pre-planning my commute, waking up early and enjoying my morning. Slowing down helps. I also have a made a habit of not doing anything school/work related after 8pm. My mind does not work at night! Ice cream and some journaling is a favorite when it comes to self care. No one said taking care of ourselves was going to be easy. (:

Kenzie: Sometimes I’ll bury emotions inside me until one day I just snap. And that’s not good... So there are some things that I will do to take care of myself so that doesn’t happen. When I’m feeling anxious or overwhelmed, I usually try to take a step back and turn away from everything for a little bit. Sometimes if I’ve been out in a social environment for too long, I’ll feel a little temperamental so that’s when I basically put myself to bed. I’ll give myself some alone time (something INFJs really value) and I’ll do something I enjoy doing such as reading a cute, fluffy read or the webcomic I’m currently obsessed with. Doing those little things such as having a cup of tea, getting a little more sleep, or relaxing really does help. For me, it’s all about the little things. We are like plants. We still need our sunshine and water, even when we think we’ve had enough of it.

Thank you so much for doing this with me, Vanessa! You know I'm always down to having one of those #deepconvos. ;) I am seriously super excited to do another collab with you! Everyone, please go give Vanessa some love because she is super inspiring and a deep soul. You will instantly feel a sense of comfort while reading her posts. <3

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Are you an INFJ? If not, what is your MBTI type? COULD YOU RELAT TO ANY OF THE SUBJECTS WE DISCUSSED? Do you have a different take on them? LET US KNOW! What do you think about relationships and dating? How do you take care of yourself? I can't wait to chat with you!

xx Kenzie

p.s. i did this photoshoot such a long time ago and i'm finally breaking out the photos and it feels so weird. o-o

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What are your thoughts on the questions we discussed? WHAT ARE YOUR ANSWERS? Let us know! Want to try this tag out? GO FOR IT. Just don't forget to share the link to your post with us! Happy reading!

xx Kenzie

p.s. Lisa informed me that she does not receive notifications for my blog posts via her blogger new feed. Does this happen for anyone else? Do any of you know how to fix it? Asking for a friend. (Whom is very clueless when it comes to the tech part of blogging. Hint: it's not Lisa.)